THE SIXTEEN ESSENTIAL SOCIAL SKILLS


Cassandra R. Middleton-Draw, M.S,
School Based Clinician

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Good social skills help students have a brighter future. “According to a 2015 study published in the American Journal of Public Health, a child’s social and emotional skills in kindergarten might be the biggest predictor of success in adulthood.

Social skills are included as a part of my counseling curriculum every year.  They are used to assist in individual goal planning for each of my students. This year, I have future Teachers, a Reading Specialist, Nurse, Engineer, Chef, Author, Medical Doctors, Scientist, Artist, Astronaut, Marine and a Police officer. Wow! They have selected some fantastic careers!

In order to promote socially and emotionally successful students:  A student must develop the following:

1.       Self-awareness is the ability to recognize your emotions and understand the         links between emotions, thoughts and behaviors.

2.       Self-management is the ability to regulate emotions, thoughts and behaviors.

3.       Social awareness is the ability to take other’s perspectives and demonstrate empathy.

4.       Relationship skills are the ability to build and maintain healthy relationships.

5.       Responsible decision-making is the ability to make good choices about your behavior and interactions with others.

They must practice and learn the sixteen essential social skills:

1.       Asking for help

2.       Complimenting others

3.       Waiting patiently

4.       Following directions

5.       Staying on task

6.       Sharing materials

7.       Encouraging others

8.       Taking turns

9.       Communicating clearly

10.     Using quiet voices

11.     Resolving conflicts

12.     Disagreeing politely

13.     Participating equally

14.     Listening actively

15.     Taking risks

16.     Accepting differences

My Social Skills Chart…always visible.

William A. Diggs, Elementary School 2020

 My students learn of their Internal/ invisible strengths.

Social skills make them aware of their Invisible/internal strengths.

Social skills demonstrate a basic respect for self and others, and a willingness to accept others for who they are despite differences in race, gender and beliefs. Learning how to be socially competent also means learning how to be culturally competent and sensitive to the needs and interests of others. It reinforces their internal strengths.  Given the fact that we live in a very diverse society and world, it is important for students to understand that we are all human beings with similar needs and desires to live in a peaceful world with fulfilling lives.